These are the most frequently asked questions not just of me, but also by me and by most parents! I am in no way an expert, but I will do my best to throw out any ideas that I personally have found helpful.
1) How can I get my kids to behave??!
This is always asked with an air of frustration and urgency, and I totally get it. The thing you need to keep in mind is this: you never "arrive" when it comes to parenting. There is no finish line, Im sorry to say. You may master one stage only to be greeted with another shortly thereafter. But one very helpful tool that can be used across the board is consistency. You need to decide how you want things to look in your house and what kinds of behaviors you want to see from your kids. Then, you need to find a method or two that works best for you and your kids and stick to it like PB&J in your kids' hair. My kids are not perfect, but they are pretty well behaved. I do not typically have to say things more than once or twice, and when I ask them to do something they generally do it without complaint. No, my kids certainly were not born this way- in fact, it took (and still sometimes takes) a lot of hard work. I have about 2 or 3 weapons in my arsenal, and that's really all I need because I am consistent with them. My kids have learned from experience that I say what I mean. If I count to 3 and they have not done what I have asked, then they know they will get a consequence. Every. Single. Time. I am confident you know a whole bunch of methods, so you don't need me to be redundant. Just hang in there and be consistent- it takes a long time to see results but I assure you that you will.
Me and some of my little munchkins!